Narcissism & Relationships w/ Author Cynthia Blue

“Nothing is perfect. Life is messy. Relationships are complex. Outcomes are uncertain. People are irrational.”

Hugh Mackay

Is it me or have we lost our way in relationships? We’re so obsessed with what makes us happy that we forget that a relationship is a two sided affair. Our rapid narcissism and vain mindset runs every facet of our lives but is most visible in how we handle our personal relationships, both business and intimate. Where’s the feeling of mutual love and affection? Folks are hopping in relationships just to be in one now days!

Dictionary.com defines the word relationship as a connection, association, or involvement. That definition alone entails that a relationship is meant to be with two consenting people and mutual effort and work must be put in to make it work. The best literature confronts the problems that we face in an entertaining and higher minded manner. Recently I got a chance to briefly talk to author Cynthia Blue about her novel The Lesson, which talks about relationships and dealing with a partner that easily succumbs to his lusting desires.

Randall: Describe to the readers in detail what The Lesson is about.

Cynthia Blue: The Lesson is a love triangle story. The main character Cyrus is in a relationship with his live-in girlfriend Hope. They are having problems. Hope’s job closed down and she has demons in her past which causes her to be insecure and jealous at times. Cyrus loves Hope and wants to be there The Lessonfor her but he doesn’t know how much he can handle. Then her runs into an old friend name Ivy. She’s in her 40s, business savvy, beautiful, and has a strong head on her shoulders. She’s all the things that Cyrus wished that Hope was. When Cyrus and Hopes relationship reaches a boiling point he and Ivy start having an affair. Now he’s juggling the two women in order to feel complete but as we all know that once everything comes to light that’s when the gloves come off.  

 

Randall: We live in a world where individuals only care about their well-being and desires. In your opinion, how does this collective mindset affect relationships?  Does it even affect intimate relationships at all?

Cynthia Blue: I know a lot about this,  especially with me being in a relationship with a narcissist before. That way of thinking causes so much damage. It’s like no one wants to be patient, understanding and give/take anymore. It’s like either you do everything for me and you be all of this for me or I’m gone. It’s very selfish and a relationship can’t survive on the every man for themselves mentality because at the end someone ends up getting hurt and destroyed.

Randall: Do you believe that a narcissist can ever coexist in a productive relationship?

Cynthia Blue: No I don’t.

 

Randall: What was your inspiration behind writing this novel?

Cynthia Blue: The inspiration was garnered from personal experience and observations but mostly what I’ve been through in my life.

 

Randall: What other projects do you have coming up?’

Cynthia Blue: I have a new book coming out soon entitled “The Marshall’s: Loyalty Is Thicker Than Blood”.

Randall: By the time this article is published, it will be read by many young people. What is your message to them?

Cynthia Blue: Don’t let anything or anyone stop you from making your dreams come true.

We came, we saw, we conquered! My debut publishing effort “Riverview High: Circumstances” reached #2 on the Amazon charts! Check it out on Amazon today. Don’t forget to leave a review!

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