I always ask myself if I was friendly enough to attract the right friends in my life. I am loyal, observant, sweet and have a strong opinion on things. The fact that I’m observant and too straight forward with people, I find myself pushing them away. Friends should never be used too loosely these days and times. Anybody can talk to anybody and strike a nice pleasant conversation to ease the mind, body and soul. But are we really examining the characteristics and personality of people before we start claiming them as a friend?
I always thought being friends with a male would be less complicated than with a female, but I was dead wrong! They are too much opinion about certain things and don’t give you as many chances from my personal experience from a male friend I thought was a “friend”. We spent more time arguing over petty things that don’t even deserve a standing ovation in conversations via text. I have learned to just be by myself at times since I’m too opinionated I’m always think too deep into things. But sometimes some people can be a little bit too toxic for your surroundings. I want to enter into the new year with peace at my heart and a new beginning. I don’t want people in my life that are toxic or dealing with professional people who are beefing with me about my services. There has been too many times where I had to literally cut people off from my business because I felt like they weren’t taking it too seriously. My small business is my baby and I’m not going to let anybody get between us! I’m all about professionalism and business minded people who are always willing to invest in my future and in my business. Sometimes I may be too hard on people without actually giving them a chance, but I feel like I’m doing what’s right to protect my sanity.
But friends, people, business partners, acquaintances come and go and sometimes you have to go through that to discover who is being real and who isn’t. People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Many people in my life was for a season and never for a lifetime. I was born to stand out! And even if I don’t have that special friend that stays in my corner when things aren’t going right, I just have to be strong and move forward with my life. I’m no perfect saint so I don’t pretend to be one because that isn’t of my character; I still continue to think of the good things I am doing in my life. Friends shouldn’t be used too loosely, but it should be a privilege to have someone who actually is considered your friend. I can remember all the times in school where I only talked to people, but never considered them my friend. I had a very hard time trusting anyone so I would always shut them out or try to say something to hurt them so they wouldn’t talk to me anymore for dumb reasons.
Don’t allow people, the world or so called friends stop you from growing in your life. It’s all lessons learned, but just don’t make the mistake over and over again. I have to admit, I have made some of the same mistakes over and over again and I’m always wondering why I continue to do this, but truth be told, it’s stressful and emotionally draining. Just let it GO! That should be the motto for 2017: “JUST LET GO!” Don’t worry about the ones who aren’t a true friend to you; real colors will always shine. Just learn from that person and keep going. A bad friendship isn’t worth the great things you are doing in your life right now.
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