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When Friends Go, Continue to Grow!

I always ask myself if I was friends-tv-show-bad-lessons-mainfriendly enough to attract the right friends in my life.  I am loyal, observant, sweet and have a strong opinion on things.  The fact that I’m observant and too straight forward with people, I find myself pushing them away.  Friends should never be used too loosely these days and times.  Anybody can talk to anybody and strike a nice pleasant conversation to ease the mind, body and soul.  But are we really examining the characteristics and personality of people before we start claiming them as a friend?

I always thought being friends with a male would be less complicated than with a female, but I was dead wrong!  They are too much opinion about certain things and don’t give you as many chances from my personal experience from a male friend I thought was a “friend”. We spent more time arguing over petty things that don’t even deserve a standing ovation in conversations via text. I have learned to just be by myself at times since I’m too opinionated I’m always think too deep into things.  But sometimes some people can be a little bit too toxic for your surroundings.  I want to enter into the new year with peace at my heart and a new beginning.  I don’t want people in my life that are toxic or dealing with professional people who are beefing with me about my services.  There has been too many times where I had to literally cut people off from my business because I felt like they weren’t taking it too seriously.  My small business is my baby and I’m not going to let anybody get between us!  I’m all about professionalism and business minded people who are always willing to invest in my future and in my business.  Sometimes I may be too hard on people without actually giving them a chance, but I feel like I’m doing what’s right to protect my sanity.

But friends, people, business partners, acquaintances come and go and sometimes you have to go through that to discover who is being real and who isn’t.  People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime.  Many people in my life was for a season and never for a lifetime.  I was born to stand out! And even if I don’t  have that special friend that stays in my corner when things aren’t going right, I just have to be strong and move forward with my life.  I’m no perfect saint so I don’t pretend to be one because that isn’t of my character; I still continue to think of the good things I am doing in my life.  Friends shouldn’t be used too loosely, but it should be a privilege to have someone who actually is considered your friend.  I can remember all the times in school where I only talked to people, but never considered them my friend.  I had a very hard time trusting anyone so I would always shut them out or try to say something to hurt them so they wouldn’t talk to me anymore for dumb reasons.

Don’t allow people, the world or so called friends stop you from growing in your life.  It’s all lessons learned, but just don’t make the mistake over and over again.  I have to admit, I have made some of the same mistakes over and over again and I’m always wondering why I continue to do this, but truth be told, it’s stressful and emotionally draining.  Just let it GO!  That should be the motto for 2017: “JUST LET GO!”  Don’t worry about the ones who aren’t a true friend to you; real colors will always shine.  Just learn from that person and keep going.  A bad friendship isn’t worth the great things you are doing in your life right now.

Patrice Rivers

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A Long Ways to Home

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I’ve always been the type to test the dangers of life and see what the solution is towards the end.  Rebellious you may say, but I didn’t want to listen to anyone by myself.  I always got myself in trouble, whether it’s with my mouth or making the wrong decisions that could lead to bad solutions.  

I’m realizing that I have to love myself more and care less about the world and that no one can’t take my happiness away.  I’ve tested the waters long enough and using my tongue as a weapon and now it’s time to put my big girl panties on and move forward with life and start loving me for ME! No man  isn’t going to love me for what I love to do or love me for me, so as the new year approaches, I have some serious decisions to make and write down goals that I am planning to work at to achieve.

When you have a dream and a vision, don’t allow outside distractions or get emotionally involved with a situation that is too deep and unnecessary for you to handle.  FOCUS is the keyword in this lifetime.  Validation and kudoos points aren’t needed for a job well done.  Celebrate yourself every chance you get whether others aren’t that supportive or you or aren’t happy for you.  I am still learning and I know that I am not perfect but my inspirational thought for you is to keep pressing on and keep moving forward in life towards your dreams and goals!  Don’t let the world or negative situations keep you from being happy.

 

Patrice Riverspatricerivers

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ULR Feature: An Inspiring Afternoon: A Life-Changing Conversation by Milan Bakrania

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“What’s your secret?”

That’s the question that jump-starts a conversation that will benefit anyone who is curious about life, happiness or their place in the world. As Grandma unfurls a lifetime of wisdom, the reader will feel like the fourth member of a crackling conversation that explores an exhilarating way to live.

Wise Grandma, wide-eyed Lucy and cynical son-in-law Stuart cover many things central to human existence from overcoming anger to finding love and gaining financial success. Though Stuart objects, he quickly finds himself faced with scientific research and real-world examples that make him question his assumptions.

Self-assured, kind and funny, Grandma is the ideal guide, combining philosophical musings, self-help practicality and a studied grasp of diet, psychology and brain chemistry to light the way to a better tomorrow.

This book is perfect for anyone pondering the big questions or looking to build a better life. Readers will find themselves taking away life-transforming advice, even as they begin to hope that Lucy, and even good-hearted Stuart, have understood enough to apply what they’ve learned over this inspiring afternoon.

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Book Review

“Well-written and extremely interesting, this book was everything I was hoping for. In addition to being thoroughly inspiring, the words of wisdom left me thinking long after I finished this read. I particularly enjoyed the chapter on vision. Overall, I highly recommend this one and look forward to more from this author soon.” – Amazon Review

About the Author

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Milan Bakrania was born and raised in the United Kingdom, South London. As a child he would feed his imagination with stories of ancient myths, vampires and aliens. He left college with A-Level passes in Biology, Chemistry and Physics, going on to study and work in the I.T. field. Along the way, and for no reason whatsoever, he would note down story ideas and thoughts in a journal. Today, much older but still a child at heart, it is these random musings that form the foundation for his work. He is a keen observer fascinated with the age-old questions: What is it to be human? Are we really evolving? What is our place in the universe? When he writes he is simply reacting to his observations. His quest continues.

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Growth & Maturity w/Author Shaka Senghor

“A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.”

-Muhammad Ali

One thing that I’ve discovered in my seventeen years of living on the earth is that maturity is a trait that many will never get the pleasure of obtaining in their lives. It’s foreign or apparent, regardless of age, gender or race.  I searched the internet and all the major dictionary websites and couldn’t find a definition for the word maturity that wasn’t simple in its origin or had something to do with aging fruit. So, after considerable time, I researched heavier and found an article entitled Intellectual Development and Psychological Maturity. The article was exactly what I was looking for and more.

The article, written by renowned American psychologist David Wechsler, defines maturity as “the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner” and “the act of being of the correct time and place to behave and knowing when to act, according to the circumstances and the culture of the society one lives in.” Now knowing what maturity really means, ask yourself if the individuals you come in contact with on a daily basis around you or you yourself display maturity. I know I do! It’s a different story for the people around me though…….

Shaka Senghor The ratchetness and unruliness that I see on a daily basis is a sign of major  immaturity. It’s not cute or cool brothers and sisters! Like I said before, age and  circumstances can’t be used as excuses anymore. Think about the quote about  diamonds being made under pressure. The most mature, intelligent and advanced  people come from very negative circumstances and situations. Take for example  author, mentor and motivational speaker Shaka Senghor.

Shaka’s story is simply amazing. He is the epitome of growth and true maturity in  every sense of the definition. He went from a drug dealer who caught a body at the age  of nineteen to a multiple featured speaker on a global platform like TED Talks. He was recently named the national outreach representative for the BMe Community. Recently, I got a chance to dialogue with him about his life  and his rigorous move into the literary industry.

 

Randall: Many assume they know the author based on the book. Yet, tell us who is Shaka Senghor, the person?

Shaka Senghor: I am a writer and mentor and have shared my story of redemption with youth and young adults at high schools and universities across the nation.  While serving nineteen years in prison, I transformed my life, and once I returned home, I began mentoring young males who were headed down the same destructive path that led me to prison. Despite the crime I was convicted of or the lengthy sentence I served, I refuse to allow my past to define who I am or what I am capable of.

 I use my story to inspire and motivate others and unpack the causes of youth violence.  I have worked with youth at the Detroit Job Corps, Cody High School, Don Bosco Hall, Osborn High School, Henry Ford High School, and Tri-County Educational Center. I have also lectured at the University of Wisconsin–Platteville, the University of Michigan, Fordham University, Wayne State University, Marygrove College, and Pace University, and am an invited guest on local radio and television programs.

In 2012, I was awarded the Black Male Engagement Leadership Award and have worked closely with the Knight Foundation to launch the Black Male Engagement (BMe) Community, a network of Black men engaged in their community. I am also a 2013 MIT Media Lab Director’s Fellow and Co-Teach a class at the University of Michigan. I recently did a talk at TED 2014 during their 30th year anniversary that was an audience favorite. 

Shaka on the prestigious TED Talks stage.
Shaka on the prestigious TED Talks stage.

 

While incarcerated, I discovered my love for writing, eventually penning six novels, including the highly addictive street lit series, Crack: Volume 1 and Crack: Volume 2 Lockdown.  Most recently, I published my memoir Writing My Wrongs and some of my writings in a book for misguided youth entitled Live in Peace: A Youth Guide to Turning Hurt into Hope, which is a companion piece to my mentoring program, Live in Peace Digital and Literary Arts Project.  

Just as I had used writing to process my emotions while I was incarcerated, I now help youth address emotional, physical, and sexual abuse through the power of writing.  Whether I’m writing or speaking to youth, I always speak the truth about the oppressive conditions of the ‘hood and the not-so-glamorous side of the streets. 

 

Randall: What and who inspired you to become an author?

Shaka Senghor: My inspiration as a fiction writer is Donald Goines, his gritty street tales resonated with me because I grew up in the streets of Detroit that he wrote about.  As a non-fiction writer my two inspirations are Malcolm X and Assata Shakur.

 

Randall: How difficult was it for you to enter the literary field?

Shaka Senghor: It was very difficult to enter the field because I was incarcerated in solitary confinement when I first started writing and published my first book shortly after I was released from solitary into general population, but I found a way to make it happen.

 

Randall: Is it what you expected?

Shaka Senghor: It was nothing like I expected, because I started writing before Urban Fiction went commercial. I take the craft serious and it was sad watching other authors live out their dreams while I was trapped in solitary confinement. Fortunately I didn’t allow my circumstances to stand in the way of what I envisioned for my future as a writer.

 

Randall: Where do you get your story ideas from and what’s the process?

Shaka Senghor: When I started writing fiction I reflected on my experiences growing up during the height of the Crack era. I also get ideas from the other side of street life, because I want people to know there is more to life then catching a bit or getting killed at a young age.  When it’s all said and done I want to leave a literary legacy that honors the best in our culture, respects the craft of writing and storytelling and inspires the next hungry young artist to go after their goals and live out their dreams.

 

Randall: In 3 years, where do you see yourself at?

Shaka Senghor: In the next 3 years i plan to be touring the country and sharing my testimony and work with people all over the world.

 

Randall: Where are you from?

Shaka Senghor: I was born and raised in Detroit up until the age of 19 when I was sent to prison to serve my sentence.

 

Randall: As a professional, you have to put your personal views and feelings to the side for the sake of business?

Shaka Senghor: I conduct myself with the highest level of professionalism.  I believe you should always respect your fans and supporters and be available to them when they come out to support us.  People sacrifice their money and time to come into our world and when they do they should be rewarded with a professional experience.

 

Randall: What genres do you write in and do you have ambitions to dabble in other ones?

Shaka Senghor: I write what I call Conscious Street Lit, however I also write contemporary romance, non-fiction and poetry.  I’m looking forward to writing some horror stories in the near future. I am a writer’s writer and I respect the craft, so I am always finding new ways to challenge myself as a writer.  I don’t believe in comfort zones and believe when you break those molds, you grow as a writer and storyteller.

 

Randall: How can we find your titles and future book signings?

Shaka Senghor: I am preparing for a multi city tour coming soon and plan to hit a few cities on the East coast and down south.  My titles are available on my website at www.shakasenghor.com

 

Do you have any questions or comments for me? Is there someone you’d like me to interview? I would love to hear from you! Contact me directly at:

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